From your perspective, what is marriage and what are the pros and cons? What did you wish you knew beforehand?

What is marriage? I have to address this from a perspective I had never considered before my accident. It is for life and beyond.

Let us start simple and end strong. So, I took a look in the dictionary and found:




  1. 1.

    the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman).

    “a happy marriage”

    synonyms: wedding, wedding ceremony, marriage ceremony, nuptials, union

    “the marriage took place at St. Margaret’s”

    • 2.

      a combination or mixture of two or more elements. (Are you an element? In every way, Yes!) You have your qualities that make you, you. You are unique. Think on this, there is no-one else on this planet like you. A twin, might look alike, but experiences their own positives and negatives.

      For example: “a marriage of jazz, pop, blues, and gospel” Each it’s own unique genre, melody or mix.

      synonyms: union, alliance, fusion, mixture, mix, blend, amalgamation, combination, merger

      “a marriage of jazz, pop, and gospel”

    Next, what is marriage in The biblical sense? Check this out “For this reason a man and woman shall leave their parents and be cleaved as one…” He gave up his life for her.” Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Often, I have studied my parents and realize that what one does, reflects the other. Your husband will reflect you, and you them. I will start with “Do you see yourself in them?” Something attracted you. What was it? Again, listening to those,around who know you well is key.

    In answer, what are the pro’s and con’s? Once again- endless. So very much to share, this would best be discussed, but in this forum we will summarize. Wow! So VERY much to point out. I think of the song “I am married to Jesus, Satan leave me alone…” Just what does that place in my thoughts, in my mind? We have already pointed out that a “marriage partner” ‘does’ for their partner. What did Jesus do for us? Yes, things were turned around, we were created as was all in life. We stepped awry of the direction of our Creator. Things needed straightening up. What better than a portion of He that created The Universe setting things right? Yes, all will come to know it. But, we have,a chance, while there is still choice to be made. We beinf believers are ‘married’ to Jesus. He took our sins on His body. Not to stroll too far off course. He essentially was tortured to the brink of death. He still dragged the cross, falling beneath it, till the soldiers commansed someone to aid HIM.  Mow typically, ropes were used to bind an individual to a cross. He was nailed to the cross. Why? Possibly because the shred flesh and blood would not hold Him up. The two other convicts on His sides were tied to their stakes, and their lefs broken to hasten their expiration. 

    Yes, we took a stroll off topic. It was asked what are the pro’s and con’s. Agfain, too numerous to name. Let me try this. If correct, you know it is and will realize that you could do no better! What has the proposed done for you? Again, think, but due to the brain, thoughts being clouded is for life and even longer as a believer. Here,  we learn to be – there. The awe-plenty, non-stop occurences- we share, the good times are shared. When it is said that other is your ‘better’ half. Are they? What qualities make you (“Aww! That was sweet, thoughtful, king and unusual”) Awesome? What makes them awe-plenty?

    Held doors, held umbrellas, surprises, treats, times spent together. Non-ending and complete.
    These are a mite of what to know before you settle. Are you truly their number one? What I realized is that the people who know you best, know you! What do they say? In which direction do they push/point? Learn to listen and take advice from the ones who know you as good as or better than you know yourself.

    Once you take the plunge, you have to ‘deal with’, accepting the good AND bad, the positives and negatives.
    Does this make sense? Yes, there power in numbers, what do the many say? There is a reason we have family, friends, loved ones. People who have our goodwill at heart. Ask! We may be clouded with a range of emotions, seek the assistance of someone who sees clearly through the morass you may be lost in.

    Everything you need to know, you know now. How do they react to situations, you learn their character. Marriage is important for Christians because: it’s a gift from God; it’s part of God’s plan for creation that men and women should live together. it provides a relationship through which husband and wife support each other; this relationship is built on love and faithfulness.

    We can look at animal species. Yes, there are theories on evolution. Quite a few, dinosaurs have been – gone now. The reason I bring this up is simple, we have had time to develop, we are essentially still the same, born with a mind, body and spirit that was,and is and will be. Yes, our bodies are temporary lodging for the spirit, our essence. But, we will go on. Even in discussions with 8mdividuals who believe life goes on, I have encouraged them to open an account. IF they opened it and let it accumulate interest, on their next ‘go-round’, they would be unbelievably rich. 

    From our standpoint, this is a distant unattainable dream, our now is NOW. So? To summarize:

    1. Pray always without ceasing. Seeking God’s will at every step of the way.

    2. Open eyes, open heart. What looks a certain way, will not always look that way. A body builder will not always have that physique.

    3. Look, Listen, Learn. The 3 “L’s”

    4. Make a decision, knowing that this decision is one of the onle decisions you make that will affect you permanently. Other decisions: career, location, employment, family, conditions… We do NOT decide, we are born where we find ourselves. Climbing out is our responsibility. Marriage, not so- we make a known decision, the results are on us.

    I will not be ignorant of the fact that people are offered in marriage, deals struck 8n which the individual or individuals have no say. Frankly, my heart goes out to them. But, again this is YOUR decision.

    Know all you need to know before taking the plunge. You swim? I am sure you learned to “doggy-paddle as you learned to swim. We have friends first. What are the qualities of your most succesful and long lasting friendships?

    Marriage is a covenant, a sacred bond between a man and a woman instituted by and publicly entered into before God and normally consummated by sexual intercourse… The intimacy of marriage: Marriage is the most intimate of all human relationships, uniting a man and a woman in a “one-flesh” union Genesis 2:23 -25

    I am aware that I could have answered this simply. Frankly, my life is based on a decision I made years ago. It frankly was and is the decision I made to get married. It is a decision I will hope and Pray that all who are considering it pray about. I am not sure that that I have touched it in its totality,  but hopefully I opened up a torrent of information.

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