Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
He who finds a wife has found happiness and has won the favor of Hashem. This verse is a parallel to the verse in which Hashem says, “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make a fitting helper for him” Genesis 2:18.
God wants man to find a wife who will serve as his partner in life.
There is so very much to share on this share… So, here we stroll into The Word…
And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9
What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mark 10:9
“Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery. Luke 16:18
But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. 1 Corinthians 7:15
He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:4-6
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:39
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. … 1 Corinthians 7:1-40
But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew 5:32
And if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” Mark 10:12
He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. Matthew 19:8
“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” Malachi 2:16
“When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man’s wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the Lord. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the Lord your God is giving you for an inheritance. Deuteronomy 24:1-4
Make the decision and be conscious, IT was Created by The Father that ‘Marriage’ is meant for Earthly existence. This is vast… At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in Heaven.
- Humans are designed for intimate relationship – primarily with God
- Marriage is a picture of the union between Christ and His people
- In heaven, the picture will be superseded by the reality
In Mark chapter 12, Jesus gives us a teaching about marriage that may sound a bit… let’s just say unsatisfactory at first. Some Sadducees come to Jesus and present him with a scenario. Let’s say there are seven brothers. One gets married and subsequently dies. So his wife marries the next brother, then he dies. Then she marries the next brother. He dies, too. And so on down the line, until she has managed to marry all seven brothers. The Sadducees ask: at the resurrection, when all rise from the dead, whose wife will she be?
The first thing to realize is this — this is not really a question about marriage. It’s a question about eternal life. The Sadducees were a Jewish sect that did not believe in life after death. They didn’t believe in heaven or hell. And naturally they denied the possibility of a future resurrection, which Jesus preached. This question is meant to show how absurd the idea of the dead rising to eternal life is; it would lead to impossible situations like this where seven resurrected husbands all lay claim to the same wife.
But Jesus is not confounded. He responds:
“Are you not misled because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God? When they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but they are like the angels in heaven. As for the dead being raised, have you not read in the Book of Moses, in the passage about the bush, how God told him, I am the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob? He is not God of the dead but of the living. You are greatly misled” (Mk 12:24–27).
Another interesting thing about the Sadducees is that they only recognized the first five books of the Old Testament — the Pentateuch — which don’t explicitly mention a future resurrection. So notice how Jesus here affirms his teaching about the resurrection of the dead and eternal life by quoting from a text they recognize as authoritative, Exodus 3:6, where God says “I am the God of Abraham” not “I was the God of Abraham,” implying that Abraham still lives.
But even though this question is not really about marriage, Jesus doesn’t brush aside the issue. He addresses it in a single sentence: When they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but they are like the angels in heaven (Mk 12:5).
This single line from the gospel has caused trouble in the minds of many Christian married people.
Do you mean to tell me that my wife won’t be my wife in heaven? That we will no longer be married?
Are you telling me that my husband, that I have spent the past 40 years with, will no longer be my husband? That he’ll just be the same to me as anyone else in heaven?
We should address one thing right off the bat. You will certainly know your spouse in heaven. Some may speculate that in heaven our union with God will be so complete that we become oblivious to anyone else, but this is not the Catholic teaching.
This is why we pray to the saints. We know that those in heaven are part of our Christian family, and they have care and concern for us just like our Christian brothers and sisters here on earth — even more, in fact, because their love for us is no longer diminished by sin. Living in the light of God, they are able to love us perfectly. So it will be with your spouse. You will love your spouse even more in heaven than you do now. And (assuming your spouse is also in heaven) he or she will love you perfectly in return.
I think what we are afraid of when we read this teaching of Jesus is the prospect that the person who was closest and most dear to me in this life will be nothing special to me in eternity. But we need not worry about this. In heaven, you will know your spouse more, not less. You will love your spouse more, not less. You will be more completely united with your spouse, not less.
What throws us is this notion of “not being married.” In this life, no longer being married to your spouse means separation and divorce. It means division and rupture. In fact, it’s the opposite of how I just described what your relationship will be like in heaven. But Jesus is not talking about this life. He’s talking about the resurrection. And after the resurrection, marriage won’t exist — not because it’s been undone, as if it never happened — but because it has been fulfilled. Marriage won’t exist because marriage won’t be needed.
The key lesson taught here is the elders looked to trip Jesus, I laugh 😂 . In Heaven we shall be as the angels are… “there is no giving away in ‘Marriage’.” A profound concept, remember this:
Do you not know that we will judge angels? How much more the things of this life!
1 Corinthians 6:3
We branch off the main topic, but in Heaven, we shall not be physical. We will be as the angels are: not given in marriage. There is beauty indescribable! The sheer beauty in the presence of angels… https://www.gotquestions.org/judge-angels.html
Yet! By God’s grace in His image we are Created, Amen. Angels are a step beneath our Created selves… But we do see Jesus, who was made lower than the angels for a little while, now crowned with glory and honor because he suffered death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone. Hebrews 2:9
Our mortal ‘selves’ are far beneath the supernatural, for we are natural beings. Allow this to sink in.
God describes the angels in brilliant detail throughout the Bible. They are as burning coals encompassed by a bright fire, shooting forth lightning. Their faces are bright like the sun. Their feet are pillars of fire. They are a righteous army under God their General, riding on horses and chariots of fire. The angels are full of fiery majesty.
You are destined to become greater than the angels, with better character, a deeper mind and more transcendent power. So says your Bible.
The angels may be remarkable, but they are staggered and stirred by God’s plan for man. “Unto whom it was revealed, that not unto themselves, but unto us they did minister the things, which are now reported unto you by them that have preached the gospel unto you with the Holy [Spirit] sent down from heaven; which things the angels desire to look into” (1 Peter 1:12). The angels are mesmerized,in awe, of man’s potential.
To grasp your potential, it is important to understand just how awesome the angels are. “As for the likeness of the living creatures, their appearance was like burning coals of fire, and like the appearance of lamps: it went up and down among the living creatures; and the fire was bright, and out of the fire went forth lightning” (Ezekiel 1:13). The angels dart from place to place like lightning. They radiate overwhelming fire. Yet they marvel at your future!
“And I saw another mighty angel come down from heaven, clothed with a cloud: and a rainbow was upon his head, and his face was as it were the sun, and his feet as pillars of fire” (Revelation 10:1). It is hard to even picture a being with such power and glory!
“And he had in his hand a little book open: and he set his right foot upon the sea, and his left foot on the earth” (verse 2). The angel in this vision standing on the sea and on the land had a message from God for the whole world. God trusts the angels to deliver His message.
“And cried with a loud voice, as when a lion roareth: and when he had cried, seven thunders uttered their voices” (verse 3). Angels exude resounding, thunderouspower. How could you possibly become greater than these majestic beings? Do you really believe God when He reveals your future?