To start off in reverse, are you perfect? To be honest, marriage- is about settling down. The age old adage says: “Settling down.” Once things are established, biblically you move from your mother and father’s home to be “settled.” It is a point the is what it is!
Think! “Is she/he settled?” You are setting down a home, a career a relationship…
So many things have the same ‘ring’, setting out, setting your roots in career, setting down a homestead in which to be established.
Everything has its beginnings somewhere. We may look at the world’s best known relationships and learn from them. To water it down, the Clinton’s were in school together, so were the Obama’s. You meet someone, any person, THE person. How does it start? You see, are introduced to or meet someone- The seed is sown, a friendship develops. Just what establishes a ‘relationship’?
Similarities, common interests, common goals, shared wants, desires… This becomes frighteningly real! Why do you “fall in love?” That person is an extension of you! Check this out! As the bible says, you two become ONE. Incredibly this was stated by Jesus! “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:7-9
I know that I sound and have become mister bible. Many points. Even if I seem to derive so many things from The Bible, amazingly it has been called The book of Life. All we encounter, are, experience is in it. I dare challenge anyone to point to something that is not referred to in one way or another. Funny enough, we study and read when we want to be established in FACT. What do we go through that has not already been done, experienced or gone through. In the basic form- in school, we have textbooks. In life, there are newspapers. Yes, there may be some news coloured in by the attitude or opinion of the writer. But if the same thing is repeated by different authors in different times, it lends credence to what is shared.
Amazingly, we have The Bible! This was put together: This table summarises the chronology of the main tables and serves as a guide to the historical periods mentioned. Much of the Hebrew Bible or the Protocanonical Old Testament may have been assembled in the 5th century BCE. The New Testament books were composed largely in the second half of the 1st century CE.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating_the_Bible
I know that this is a long and complex answer to simple question. The question is not so simple.
In ending this diatribe, you stated “No-one can be another person’s perfect?” I can answer that EXTREMELY easily. ARE YOU PERFECT? A myriad of responses. You work on yourself daily, why would that ever change?
Here, I can step outside of the ‘religious path’ we beat and share what we can refer to as fact: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/sex-and-intimacy/the-role-of-friendship-in-marriage/twelve-steps-to-a-deeper-friendship-with-your-spouse
For the most part, I think that answers your questions. More so, PRAY! I cannot stress that enough, in The book I refer to at all times- The Bible, it says pray without ceasing, give thanks in ALL things. In so doing we are established and rooted right where we are and were meant to be.
A long response, but hopefully it helps map out your course.
In righteousness you shall be established; you shall be far from oppression, for you shall not fear; and from terror, for it shall not come near you.
Isaiah 54:14
Beautifully stated.