We shared this a year ago. I was reminded of the essence of Marriage. Sometimes, I point things out that we all should know.
Brothers, this is for you. And, wives pay attention!
Let me start with The Women first. WHY did you get married????
What drew you to him? Is he the same? Better? Worse?
Seriously, I have to ask. Many things are blessed with time; a fine wine, excellent cheeses… Is your husband the same? Better? Worse? Unchanged?
I will state again, “Things change with time.” Some for the better, others for worse. Things in nature are not stable.
In the supernatural, “Yes!”
I will start of by saying, “We serve an unchanging God!”
God is The same yesterday, today and for always!
With Man, not so! Let us delve into the share; wives pay attention and expect! Faith it! And keep praying that The LORD does all, Amen.
We have done quite a bit of sharing on relationships lately. I was blessed to receive this from brethren. I am lead to encourage the family structure, which starts from the head of the household. Brothers, are you the head? What do you do as the ‘head’?
“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.”
This makes it deep! We are to in every way act/be as Christ was; will/would you give your life for your significant other?That is you!
Hmm! 🤔you do not believe it?
“The two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.”
I will start off with what has been said for all time.
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
As stated, this has been said from the beginning of ‘Time.’
Husbands and Wives:
‘Husbands… live with your wives, and treat them with respect.’ 1 Peter 3:7
You must get to know your wife and respect her needs. When God made woman, He made her to be a receiver and responder. He made her a little softer, a little warmer, a little more emotional in order to respond to you.
A woman responds to a man in such a way that the very thing he wants, he will receive by giving, instead of demanding.
When your wife feels truly loved and secure you will not have to worry about her fulfilling her responsibility in the home.
You won’t have to wonder if you’ll have an active, intimate, physical relationship. She’ll be right there responding to your needs.
But that means you must put your wife and family first.
Sometimes that means saying, ‘Sorry, guys, I can’t go out with you tonight because I’m taking my wife on a date.’ (When did you say this last? Have you ever said it?)
Funny if we want, need, desire…That is our main goal. Our all goes into attaining, achieving!
When you’re that kind of husband, you’ll get the kind of response you want without demanding it.
But be prepared; there may be issues festering under the surface that need to be dealt with before you can move forward as a couple.
If so, be humble enough to realize what they are, and say truly, ‘I’m sorry I’ve failed you. I haven’t loved you the way I was supposed to and I know it has affected our relationship. I haven’t given you the time and attention you need. But starting today I’m going to change. With God’s help, I’m going to try to Love you the way you deserve to be Loved.’
Mind you I used a capital “L”, a 1 Corinthians 13 definition!
• Effortless and Eternal Attraction. When we are truly in love with someone, we discover moments of love and affection in the most normal of situations. …
• Mutual Respect. …
• Acceptance. …
• Selflessness. …
• Trust. …
• Healing. …
• Growth. …
Now, sir, your wife may faint when she first hears it, but if you follow through, you can have the marriage you always dreamed of.
Pray together, feel together, share together. I am ‘want’ (lacking) today all this! You two are one flesh.