Right quick: Marriage involves spiritual, emotional, and physical closeness. In the Old Testament, we are taught, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be ONE flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Married couples are meant to be unified in every possible way.
This is profound. I am an example of an individual that did not do things as per God’s Word. I have been blessed however and thank God for His mercies. I think this gives me a firm platform to speak from. First and foremost: PRAY! and keep praying!
When and if we do we are utmostly blessed and filled with joy. I am not ignorant of the fact that two individuals have their belief/practices/mindsets… but read “…and they shall be ONE flesh.” When I am blessed to see a God focused couple, I am blessed to see what God led His children to and shines down on and through them! Amen.
Honor isn’t based on behavior or subject to emotion. You grant your spouse value whether they want it or deserve it. Honor is a decision you make and a gift you give. This is exactly what the apostle Paul encouraged the early Christians to do when he wrote, “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor” (Romans 12:10).
The primary attitude that will help your spouse feel emotionally safe is when they believes that you understand how incredibly valuable they are. That is the essence of honor. Honor is a decision to view our spouse as a priceless treasure – a person of high worth and value. This is what king Solomon encouraged as well: “A man’s greatest treasure is his wife” (Proverbs 18:22).
God has made it resplendently clear that your partner is valuable. Look at some of the verses that show how much our Heavenly Father values and cherishes us:
- “For you were made in My Image.” (Genesis 1:27)
- “I chose you when I planned Creation.” (Ephesians 1:11) You have a purpose/reason! Start living it and praying about it.
- “You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
- “For you are my treasured possession.” (Exodus 19:5)
Make a honor list: To explain this, start a blog, diary of things you appreciate about your partner at awesome times. It serves as a reference to visit when times are tough. We can create this honor list for our spous. Take several minutes to list all the reasons why your spouse is so valuable. For example: a character trait, faith pattern, values, morals, parenting skills, spirituality, the roles he or she plays that you appreciate (worker, friend, parent, sibling, son), personality characteristic, how he or she treats you, etc.
And don’t keep the amazing list to yourself – share it with your spouse. Let him/her know that you recognize their value. When this happens, not only does your spouse benefit, but you are positively impacted as well.